Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Beaten But Still Standing

Undang, Ruping, Rosing, Milenyo, Frank, Ondoy, and Pepeng. I've lost track of the other typhoons that had lashed out in our country, since an average of 20 typhoons strike us and our South East Asian neighbors each year. These few, however, have been ingrained in my memory, because I've seen how they adversely changed, not only our landscape but also our lives.


I was only a year old when Undang, recorded as one of RP's deadliest typhoons hit the country. Mama used to tell us how a floating bunch of bananas was carefully washed, boiled, and became their dinner.  Our eldest sister would now and then recall how the neighborhood looked like it was built on water. That time,  the Panay River rose, and with the continuous downpour, flooded our province.


In 1990, Ruping  killed 748 people in the Philippines, and later in 1995,  Rosing left with 936 deaths. When these typhoons came, each of them left with a whooping P11-billion damage and millions of families displaced. Both typhoons slammed on us. Although day and night we worry for our families and ourselves, the next mornings promised better, fairer days. So momentarily, our fear was gone. With some kids in the neighborhood, we were more preoccupied with going after catfish which made their way into our neighborhood when nearby fishponds and streams overflowed.




Reming, Milenyo, Frank, Ondoy, and Peping came years after. The recent onslaught of Ondoy and Pepeng have been all over the news and the Internet. For several days, we were glued to TV and Internet updates, hoping that our friends and families would be spared or that the convergence of the super typhoons as seen on the news would disintegrate altogether.


Strong winds have battered houses and the flashfloods have buried homes--again leaving thousands of our kababayan (countrymen) homeless and missing family members. Despite the damages and the losses, we have once again proven that nothing is too insurmountable for us. We are such hopeful people and a "happy race" as foreigners describe. Where else would you see evacuees waving and smiling for the news camera?


As typical to countries near the equator, our climate gives us high temperatures and high humidity during the hot and dry season, and abundant rainfall  (which average at 80 inches) between July-November. The most formidable of typhoons usually hit us in November. Because such is the condition of our country, we have somehow gotten accustomed to these "natural disturbances" and devised our ways of coping. For instance, in the Batanes areas, where typhoons mostly coming from the Pacific pass through, people have built stone houses which can withstand the monsoon gale. In the flood-prone areas in the cities, residents have makeshift rafts and bancas which are helpful during emergency situations. Still, you would see heavy rubber tires on roofs of some houses to keep the roof from getting blown away.




But onslaught after onslaught, how much can we really take? Watching the news somehow made me feel sorry that these typhoons have strained our resources for rescue and rehabilitation too much. Yet stories showing how people survived and how neighbors rescued and comforted each other have been overwhelming and encouraging. The outpouring support from our kababayan goes to prove that in the midst of  human suffering, there is compassion. And that faced with a crisis, people would exhaust ways to provide for their family's needs.


Perhaps an outstanding example of this is Carlo, whose story, aired at a local news channel moved me to tears. Carlo's family is one of the victims of Ondoy (Ketsana). They were only able to save themselves from the raging flood and mud that buried their village in San Mateo, Rizal. What amazes me about Carlo's story is that instead of wallowing in what has happened to them, he moves into action. It's as if  he was thinking, "This happened to me, what can I do?" In a day of fetching water for his neighbors, Carlo earns P20 (That's  roughly $0.42). With this money, he can help his parents buy food to feed his younger siblings.


For as long as there are kids like him, and people who willingly share, there is indeed a promise of sunshine and better days ahead. We might have gotten accustomed to nature's inconsistencies--beaten we may be, but hopefully standing stronger.





A Prayer

People may smile around me
And say or nod hello--
I may, at times, claim I know "me,"
But in the coldness, in the void--
No one else does but You.



Deep inside my being--
The very parches of my soul,
When I am frail and doubtful
You know, you know what's going on.
In the sea of loving faces,
How do I say I feel alone?

Reign over me
Let me shut out all the noise
Stop me from hanging by a moment,
Allow me to watch the time to go by
without a care in this world--
Liberate me.

Reign over me
Let the music seep in and reverberate in me;
To dance and sing and praise,
Unaffected by what others may think;
In the silence, I will listen only to your voice--
Pacify me.



Reign over me
As I gape up at the heavens
in wonder at all the stars in place
What is there beyond?
What have you laid out for us all?


Wash me--
Let the torrents and torrents flow down my face.
And with these tears,
Make me one with the sufferings of the Earth.

Reign over me
Lavish and bathe me in sunshine,
So I may know its warmth
And Love, in all its glory, bask in it.



Reign over me
Let me hear the laughter
resonate the hollowed corners,
Watch the walls crumble at my feet,
Hold on to nothing, live by Faith.

Reign over me
Let me make this right,
Surrender all my battles,
And begin to see Life for what it REALLY is.
And know what it's WORTH.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

26

My 26 years of existence has taught me these…



  • Be polite and listen. Sometimes all you have to do is just listen.
  • Return things where you found them.
  • Sometimes a hug is enough to make the pain go away.
  • You can sit quietly with a friend and go home like you have had the best conversation. With true friends, silence isn’t that awkward.
  • Always have your college diploma, transcript of records, board certificate, license/ professional ID ready. You never know when they may come in handy.
  • Some breakthroughs may come in as risks. Most of the times, we are torn from doing the sensible thing that we think should be done because we can’t risk the things we can’t afford losing.
  • The first year in any career is always rocky. Fasten your seatbelt and take a ride.
  • Sometimes we don’t know that we need a “fuzzy” companion to hug until someone gives them to us.
  • Promises are contradictions: easy to make, difficult to fulfill. Make promises that you can accomplish.
  • On thoughtless remark may forever mar someone else’s reputation.
  • Keep the child in us alive and playing. 
    [Talking to inanimate objects having their own alter egos is sometimes more comforting].

  • There are several creative ways of dealing with problems. Ignoring their existence will temporarily ease the burden. But they still have to be dealt with.
  • We can’t smother people in any relationship (this applies to friends, family, boyfriend). Nothing grows under too much shade. Allow them a separate space to mature.
  • People do not have price tags, but each one of us has his worth.
  • Holding on to anger and pain, and being drawn to others’ negativism steal our energy and zest for living.
  • Sibling fights can be patched up by offering something he or she finds irresistible: 
    “So, are we still on for CSI Marathon tonight?’ [with Schelli]


    I’ll do the dishes tonight?” [with Rhodela]


    “Here, I made you coffee” [with Rhoda]

  • Criticism can sometimes lead us to self-evaluation. Work on your blemishes, reject those which do not apply.
  • Helping people grow sometimes involves letting go and having them face the consequences of their actions.
  • Parents are sometimes too scared to let you know that they don’t have all the answers. Take it easy on them.
  • Do not idealize people too much. They are humans. Expect what is reasonable, not what is perfect.
  • When angry with someone, stop and reconsider before you respond.
  • Jealousy and anger aren’t something to be ashamed or guilty of. It’s what we do about these which make us bad.
  • Courage doesn’t mean indulging in a reckless dare. Or being unafraid. It is facing the truth and doing the right thing, no matter how unpopular.
  • Sometimes bad things happen to good relationships. But good or bad, they have their values.
  • You can always make someone appear bad but it still won’t make you a better person.